WedLog

So, two more dreams. The first (from before the mini-crisis*) was very calm. I again didn’t have anything ready for the wedding – no programs, no shoes, hadn’t done a dress fitting so the dress was a foot too long and too big on top, no flowers, hadn’t finalized the ceremony with the priest, etc. etc. But in that dream I didn’t stress out at all. And in fact my mom showed up at the last minute with a beautiful headband for me to wear (to distract from the dress that didn’t fit) and an awesome pair of shoes. And my attitude during the whole dream was very calm and not worried.

Contrast that with the dream I had last night (post mini-crisis*): I hadn’t finalized the details of the reception with the new restaurant so I was just hoping that they’d be ready when we got there and that there wouldn’t be other people there eating dinner. Again, I had no programs, we hadn’t done a rehearsal and I wasn’t confident that the priest was going to show up. I distinctly remember crying through the whole dream. It felt incredibly realistic in the way that only terrible nightmares feel. I was devastated. And, strangely, the part that I was most devastated about was that I hadn’t gotten to do seating arrangements. Figuring out seating arrangements, unlike for most couples, is probably the thing that I am MOST looking forward to with the whole wedding. So when I realized that I’d forgotten to do them in this dream I was crushed. Oh man it was terrible. I woke up with one of those corny Hollywood gasps and I almost started to cry in bed from the trauma. Clearly, I don’t do well when things aren’t nailed down and decided.

Time to set up that last meeting with the priest, sign a new contract for the reception, meet with Allison to revise the flowers, get the dress fitted (appointment on Sunday), arrange transportation, fix the invitations, design the programs, make the Ketubah, get a day-of timeline nailed down and then make hair appointments (which I wish was done already but the mini-crisis has created an unknown for day-of timing).

*mini-crisis … more to come later but suffice it to say we have to change our reception venue, which is not an easy task in New York (wedding-season-saturated) with only 3 months. But we have options that we’re happy with so things look good.